Commentary by Walter Albritton

August 6, 2006


Forgiveness is the Key to Restoring Broken Relationships


2 Corinthians 2:5-11; 7:2-15

Key Verse: For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation and brings no regret, but worldly grief produces death. – 2 Corinthians 7:10

          In the Dictionary of Quotations only one person is quoted under the word “forgiveness.” That person is Jesus and the quotation is the entire parable of the prodigal son found in the 15th chapter of the Gospel of Luke. Obviously the authors felt this statement on forgiveness by our Lord has no equal.           And they are correct.

          Of course Jesus had much more to say about forgiveness. The necessity of forgiveness was a cardinal teaching of Jesus. His teaching was penetratingly clear as in Matthew 6:14-15: For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

          Saint Paul continues this same theme in his letters to the young churches. Some of the apostle’s most memorable teachings concern forgiveness. One of his priceless observations for me is Ephesians 4:32:

          “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you.” (NKJV) That admonition to forgive has challenged me all my life. Even when I am slow to forgive, I know I must for the Lord leaves us no other alternative.

          Paul learned firsthand the need for a forgiving spirit. Not everyone in the church at Corinth welcomed Paul’s teaching. One man opposed Paul openly. For his offense he was disciplined by the church. In this Second Letter Paul encouraged the church to move on by forgiving the man and restoring him to the fellowship. Here Paul is practicing what Jesus preached.  His sage words, “reaffirm your love for him,” are worth remembering when we deal with conflict within our churches.

          When a person has been grievously offended, forgiveness is never easy. In fact, it becomes possible only when we remember the grace of God. Paul helps us understand the crucial role of grace in forgiveness. Grace makes the impossible possible. God forgives us for our sins. He expects us to forgive those who sin against us. This we must do or our fellowship with the Father is broken. We cannot know God and at the same time harbor resentment toward another person.

          What then can motivate us to repent of our resentment or hatred toward another? Paul’s answer is “godly grief.” Godly grief is grief that involves God. Godly grief makes us aware that we have sinned against God as well as the person we resent. Remember the cry of David as he repented of his adultery with Bathsheba? His was godly grief:

          “Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight. . . .” (Psalm 51:1-4)

          Godly grief moves us to genuine repentance. Paul commends the church for their repentance; it has brought him great joy. He hammers home the sharp contrast between godly grief and “worldly grief.” Godly grief “produces a repentance that leads to salvation” while worldly grief “produces death.” One leads to peace with God; the other to separation from God.

          Today’s scripture offers us yet another jewel from the apostle: “Make room in your hearts for us.”  Here Paul shows us that genuine Christianity is a matter of the heart. Despite our differences and inevitable conflict in the church, we can learn to open our hearts to one another! We can recognize that our sins grieve God and we can repent. We can forgive one another and allow grace to restore broken relationships. When we do this, even pagans will testify, “Those Christians really do love one another!”

          Satan has a field day when Christians engage in bitter conflict. He delights to see us focus our attention on what is wrong with other people. He loves it when we think we are always right! But when we remember the Cross and repent of our own sins, we defeat Satan. He wants nothing to do with genuine repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

          Our churches become stronger when Christians practice forgiveness. Old wounds can be healed by a forgiving spirit. Broken relationships can be mended by forgiveness. As the old gospel song puts it, “chords that were broken will vibrate once more,” and joy will abound in the household of God!

          The key is to open our hearts to one another, to love one another unconditionally, and to be willing for God to mend not some but all our broken relationships.  He can do it – when our hearts are open to him and to each other. May God give us the willingness so to live!

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